Most people have a handful of friends on who they rely on in good times and bad. Jane Druker, Assistant Editor (Health & Beauty) at Woman & Home, Editor of Feel Good You and co founder of www.thefclub.uk talks about why it's time to celebrate some of the most profound and powerful relationships of your life.
If you have a handful of friends on which you can depend, turn to in times of crisis and celebrate with in times of joy – you are blessed.
Ones that enhance and never deplete, that always support and place you firmly in an upward trajectory. I have acquired my group from the time I was at school to now – I can count them on one hand but quality not quantity is the name of the true friendship game. They have been my peers on a journey through life that has included mad jobs, bad boyfriends, travelling the world, marriage, motherhood and starting a business together. Because they've accompanied me over five and counting decades they've seen me at my best, my worst and we've laughed, cried together and elevated each other every which way one can. Honesty is our cornerstone and, for that reason, I cherish these relationships as some of the most meaningful of my life.
Over the course of decades, my circle have given me sanctuary in times of emotional and physical need – one giving me a home when I returned from Australia with a broken heart, another being a superior God mother to my son when he was turned away from Virgin Airlines for not having an American passport and ferrying us to the American Embassy to rectify it while helping (my) panic subside. And I hope I have responded in kind. Friends have already started losing parents and funerals have replaced the wedding invitations these days. I have read eulogies, held hands and wept well into the wee early hours and I know my friends would do the same for me.
Emily aka Fashion Foie Gras on her BFF
Watching an episode of Sex & the City last night took me back to the five years in my thirties I spent in New York as a single gal with all the fun and drama that came with it. I was struck by how the premise of that show was not only four very different women caring for one another and being each other's family – which I identify hugely with – but also they each display individual style that is still super inspiring. My group reflects this – there's the tomboy-style one, the ladylike dresser, the couldn't–care-less-what-I–put-on-as-long-as-it's-clean one, the fashion stylist and, me, the journalist and experimental one with Carrie wardrobe fantasies. We know who we are and we're a colourful bunch. The truth is these women are my chosen sisters who have seen me through the seasons of my life. And, Amen to that.
Emily aka Fashion Foie Gras on her BFF
These are the "moments" with friends that always leave me feeling positively uplifted and sustain a healthy long term friendship which does require making time for one another. Try them with you pals!
Watching Sex & the City/Friends/AbFab Box Sets with a glass (or three) of Prosecco.
Going away together for a girl's weekend somewhere that involves pubs, or a week in Ibiza – just lounging, laughing and sharing book and beauty recommendations.
Sharing wardrobes - See our boxout below for the best tops to wear for a Friday night out with the girls.
A long walk with the dogs and a pub lunch to talk through what's on your mind.
Going to tea or brunch – both meals you don't need but LOVE.
Friday night at a friends' kitchen table just eating, drinking and talking.
A proper telephone conversations that puts the world to rights (so good you wish you'd taped it).
Friday night Netflix marathons of uplifting rom coms like the Notebook, The Devil Wears Prada or The Crown on repeat.
METALLIC TWIST NECKLINE TUNIC
This flattering shape strikes the perfect balance between casual and smart, making it the ideal pub top.
BLOSSOM FOIL PRINT DROP SLEEVE TOP
Simply wear with black skinny jeans or trousers, and a pair of heels, for a simple yet classic eveningwear outfit.
BLACK HIGH NECK EMBELLISHED TOP
Make a statement this season in this beautifully embellished high- neck top. Wear with black skinny jeans and heels for the perfect going out outfit.
FLORAL BURNOUT RUFFLE FRONT BLOUSE
Add some colour to your autumn wardrobe with this lovely wrap front blouse with ruffle detail. Wear with tapered trousers or slim-fit jeans.